My cousin Aaron has been staying with us temporarily, and when he got home the other night he was kind enough to sit and listen to me rant and rattle off all the stuff I "need to get done," as I worked on one of the new quilts for the girls' room. As the oldest of eleven children, and a father of one, he smiled and said, "Yeah, I didn't use to believe that nesting was a real phenomenon, until I saw it firsthand when Katy (his wife) was pregnant. She did so much sorting, cleaning out and reorganizing - there was no other explanation." I stared at him. Nesting. I never even thought of that.
Sure, I know about it. I'm sure I've done it before. But when I had Hazel we moved 3 months before, and 3 months after, she was born, so I never noticed the difference between nesting and packing and unpacking and packing and unpacking. With Ginger, it's hard to remember. Everything from that time is hard to remember. Plus we moved during that pregnancy, too, to have room for her. More packing and unpacking.
But since I am happy to blame as much as possible on pregnancy (weight gain, heartburn, swollen ankles, poor sleep, cravings, forgetfulness, exhaustion, confusion, stuffy nose, etc.), I much prefer "nesting" to "totally unnecessary and unrealistic frantic mania," which is what I thought I had. What a relief.
So here's to nesting. That makes it OK to have a million things to do, mostly self-imposed. Here are just a few on the list this week:
- Finish quilts for girls' room (we got them bunk beds and fixed up the room a little - it will get its own post when everything is done)
- Finish Hazel's skirt I started sewing weeks ago
- Make 3 pairs of summer capris for Hazel (I have the fabric and pattern - now that she is in big girl sizes I hate almost all the clothes in stores)
- Make Ginger's baby book (if I don't do it now, will she ever get one?)
- Have my friend Julia come over and show me how to make her awesome peanut butter rice krispy treats since I can't get them right on my own
- Get way ahead on VGP posts
- Gather things for girls' Easter baskets, EBX basket, and surprise bags for while I'm in the hospital
- Finish consulting with Mom on the new baby's quilt
- Clean: all the bathrooms, master bedroom, stairs, doors, walls, all the floors
- Find and buy a great changing table/dresser from Craigslist
- Do all of Ginger's preschool paperwork
- Do all of Hazel's kindergarten paperwork
- Sign girls up for summer swimming lessons
- Plan and send invitations for Hazel's birthday party
- Attack pile of mending on my sewing table
- Write that children's book I've been thinking about
- Go through a huge stack of magazines I want to read before recycling
- Continue to harass the county about zoning our block for parking
- Make my 2008 and 2009 blog books
- Make a "Crazy Box" (an idea I've been working on - will tell more in a post someday)
- Make freezer meals and collect super-fast 20-minute recipes
And of course blog about at least half of the above.
A few things I've already done:
- Sort baby 0-6 month clothes
- Make one skirt for Hazel
- Sign the girls up for 1 week of summer camp
- Made - and devoured - a bunch of chocolate milkshakes
- Cleaned the office
- Got the girls' bunk beds set up, and a new rug for their room
- Finished VGP 2009 cookbook
- Pre-registered at the hospital
And then there's the regular stuff that must be done every day, like cooking, cleaning, FHE, seizing teaching moments, modeling perfect patience, limiting kids' TV time, reading stories, teaching Hazel to read, giving baths, doctor appointments, watching what I eat, visiting teaching, mailing the tax forms, teaching Peewees, reading parenting books, and keeping everyone happy.
I'm not overwhlemed. I'm nesting.